It is said that our relationships are our greatest teachers. Those whom we choose to share our lives with have the ability to hold a mirror to us and allow us to see ourselves as we are and not how we think we are.
Is it really a coincidence that your current partner is pointing out the same negative behaviour in you as your previous partners did? Many people experience this as being judged or criticised by their partners and this can lead to resentment or frustration.
Ultimately this may lead to the breakup of a valuable relationship. Good relationships are supposed to be simple (most of the time!). There is generally a natural harmony and an acceptance amongst the partners that it is ok to give and receive feedback about one’s shortcomings if it is done in the spirit of personal growth.
Parents will readily admit that they learn a lot about themselves from their interactions with their children but are often less likely to admit the same about their interactions with their partners or spouses.
How can a relationship coach help you?
Relationship coaching works because it involves assessing your personal situation and will help you to :
• Create compelling visions for your relationships. Working together you will define strategies for letting go of toxic relationships, transforming other relationships, and proactively co-creating healthy new relationships.
Eliciting your partner’s values and your values and dealing with any incompatabilities.
• Achieve your relationship goals by developing healthy relationship skills such as boundaries, assertiveness, and honest communication. You will develop other skills such as listening on multiple levels, asking powerful questions, and how to be fully present with another person. When you become empowered with these skills, you will gain the confidence to make healthy and conscious relationship decisions.
• Find the proper balance between your own needs and someone else’s needs in order to achieve a satisfying and fulfilling relationship with that person.